Becoming a better person

This entry is very random. and when i say that it is random you should be scared. cos it might be un-understandable. Was just thinkin about myself. (seriously, is there anything else?) and yes, i started to wallow in my own lies, my own delusions, and my own pity.

If u have heard me talk before, you know i strongly believe in the "Becoming a better person" theory. and i came up with it. I came up with a theory i believe in. How interesting!

It goes like this: it's actually a decision making model. Alternatively, it serves to make you make the best of situations. depending on whether you have entered in it already.

To begin, assume you have not embarked on it yet.

So let's say you are considering...whether or not to buy a new car. hmm...i dunno whether this is really a good example. but let's work on this first.

So upon considering the financial part, and parental objections cleared, etc...now is 'whether or not you should?'. if you ask me, i'd ask you, whether or not it'l make you a better person.

and if u can say yes, to God and to your conscience, then yea, go ahead.

Perhaps if u r not bored by now, you would ask me what i mean by becoming a better person? Well, actually there is no need to be all that academic about it. But here are some measures I take:
1) Will i be able to serve God better?
2) will i feel better about myself?
3) can't think of anymore.

As for the second part, it is built on the assumption that you are already in it. And there's no way out. For eg, you got sabo-ed into being in a project group with a bunch of free-riders.

this requires a bit more creativity. but you should (according to my theory) ask yourself how you can become a better person.
1) for eg, you can learn to work with people who might depend on you
2) may be able to help others
3) learn to effectively delegate
4) learn patience and tolerance
5) basically learn more about the module as you have more to do
6) many more....

if you are still here, reading, you might ask: "there are so many poor people, people who need help, projects that will make me a better person...then do i do everything?"

the answer is nope.

Instead, you can consider thinking about what you already have in your hands. Most of my friends are students. I am one myself. cos God placed me here. And this is my primal duty. So whatever secondary duties that will make me a better person cannot compromise this. In any case, a big part of becoming a better person is to be more knowledgeable.

And when you embark on something new, always consult your parents. cos God placed them there. They are our first advisors. And pray to God that they have the God-given wisdom, coupled with their life experience, along with how much they know about you, you can be quite sure their advice can add value.

Next, you can consult friends. Or seniors. including professors, pastors or certain people you respect. But once again, before that, pray that God will give them the words to say. And always clarify with them if you don't understand.



Finally, to see if you have been using this theory well, consider yourself now and yesterday. or last year or the year before. And ask yourself. Have you become a better person?